a few words of wisdom for planning your wedding
Finding a song for the First Dance at a Wedding comes with many challenges. There are a lot of factors to consider besides "that is our favourite song". I have surveyed many couples within Northern Ontario to find out how they chose their special song and what songs have been popular choices in Thunder Bay.
Why and how did people choose their Wedding Song?
I think everyone has a unique story but sometimes it's a hard decision to make. Here are some of the many reasons couples chose the song they did:
- it suited the theme of our wedding and the venue perfectly
- it's such a beautiful song and/or we both liked the song
- we chose it because we felt it really captured what we wanted our marriage to be like. If you listen to the lyrics it’s a beautiful song and when you compare it to marriage it fits
- it reminded us of where the Proposal happened
- the song we chose was by a band that we saw in concert together
- we heard it on the radio and it just kinda clicked for both of us
- we chose it because the lyrics fit with our relationship the best and we love that style of music
- the song made us feel like the lyrics could read our minds regarding our feeling for one another
- we wanted something classic and timeless with a new fresh spin on it
- I loved this song prior to getting married. I didn't even consider it initially for our first dance song until I really thought about the lyrics and felt they suited our relationship really well
- We didn’t have a traditional wedding so we wanted the song to be unique and non-traditional too
- we wanted to have a Canadian artist
I think the best advice I can offer is to choose a song that speaks to you both, as a couple, and a song that has a special meaning. Often people pick whatever the 'ballad of the day' is because it's trendy. This could be a great option for you if you want to commemorate the year you are married, as it can remind you of all the time spent leading up to your Big Day and any other relevant events that year. But, ultimately, this is YOUR WEDDING, it's not about pleasing your guests, it's about choosing music for a special moment that is just about the two of you. Really, how often do you get 2-5 minutes to listen to a great song in silence when your friends and family just stop, stare and listen with you!
The Recipe for a great First Dance: I have had the opportunity to choreograph First Wedding Dances for a while now and each couple is very different and diverse in their vision, abilities and song choices.
One of the most difficult and important decisions the couple has to make is about their First Dance song choice. As this is a complex subject, I will write about it in the near future. Let's assume the couple has their song chosen.
How do you know if you want a special choreographed dance at your wedding? Do you have to be a good dancer? What is involved with creating a special first dance? These are many questions I know that couples have. Based on my experience and how I like to work with people, I would like to share my "recipe" for creating a great first dance routine for your wedding.
First, how do you know you event want a special choreographed dance at your wedding?
Close your eyes and picture in your mind the vision you have on your wedding day. You likely already have the colours chosen, the location, decorations or theme and maybe even your wedding dress. Can you envision you dancing with your new spouse in front of your loving family and friends? What does it look like? Do you look like you're standing in one spot, hugging each other (grade 8 style) moving slowly in a circle? Do you look like your parents or grandparents when they dance? Do you look like that dreamy couple in that chick flick you love to watch or can you see the two of you on Dancing with the Stars??? This is an important clue as to what you want to do for a first dance. When you think of other weddings you have attended, what do you think of the first dances you've seen? Are they sweet? Are they boring? Are they interesting and intriguing? Did the couple surprise you?
TELL ME YOUR VISION
Do you have to be a good dancer?
NO! Absolutely not. No one needs to be a "good dancer" to dance a nice, prepared dance for their wedding. All you need is the will to try some new things, a bit of confidence in your ability, determination to practice and the support of your partner. I create a customized dance that will suit both the music, your theme and BOTH of the couples' abilities. You are not learning a full ballroom technique dance, you will not be asked to do moves that you don't feel comfortable with and you will not be forced to learn a dance that you will not look good doing. I work with each couple carefully to create something that you will enjoy doing, feel comfortable with and be proud to perform in front of your family and friends.
LET ME LEARN YOUR ABILITIES
What is involved with creating a special first dance?
I like to meet with both the bride and groom in person to get a feel of both personalities. See how they interact with each other and how they feel about the first dance song they have chosen together. Once I get to know their story, I like to learn a bit more about their overall wedding vision and how the dance fits in. I then have the couple do a few dance moves together to test their abilities. I do an overall assessment before developing any choreography and I always have a plan A & B once we test out the initial choreography at the first lesson. I continue to ask questions and ensure the couple is comfortable and happy with how everything feels. If you don't feel good, you won't look good. I can tell you that it's not always an easy process but it does get better with more practice and confidence.
TELL ME YOUR STORY
This is a quick review of how I like to create a unique first wedding dance with the couples I work with. I feel it is important that we spend time getting to know each other and we work TOGETHER to make your Wedding Dance Vision come true.
Please contact Wedding Dances by Heather to book your Free, no obligation dance consultation to see if you're ready to cook up a great dance for your special day. http://www.4dancebasics.com/wedding.html
WHY LEARN A CHOREOGRAPHED WEDDING DANCE?
You want to look good in front of your guests from the moment when you and your spouse step out on the dance floor
You want to set this romantic moment apart and make it your own
You want to be calm and relaxed instead of nervous for your first dance together